Bitter melon is often stir fried in China. It is also eaten in Indian food, Pakistani dishes, and many Southeast Asian cuisines. The seeds are often removed prior to cooking.
In addition to stir frying, other uses for bitter gourds include pickling, stuffing & baking, braising, steaming and adding to omelets. Common flavor pairings include fermented black beans, curries, coconut milk, tomatoes, turmeric, hummus, okra, eggplant, onions, garlic, potatoes, yogurt, chili peppers and cumin.
To rein in bitter melon’s bitter flavor, try slicing and salting it for ten minutes or soaking in salted water for an hour, then rinsing prior to cooking (as you would an eggplant). Blanching these gourds, then shocking in an ice bath can also make them more mild.